A Nigerian man is in a dilemma after he discovers that his serious girlfriend secretly took a list containing his name and those of three other guys to her pastor for marriage confirmation.
The unknown man revealed that he recently visited his girlfriend at her place to break his fast.
While she was outside to get him food and fruits with which to break his fast, he found a list in her Bible [/b]containing his name and that of three others.
He revealed that he got bothered after this discovery and has sought advice on what to do.
His words read …
“I fasted on Monday and on my way back from work, I stopped at my girlfriend’s place. Around 6pm, I told her to get me fruit and food to break my fast, and after she left, I picked her Bible to do my prayer and I noticed a paper with my name and 3 other names written. She ticked another guy’s name and on the same paper she wrote down what the man said about each one of us. Obviously, they were all a guess game. I was bothered because I am not a fan of jumping from pastors and again that she had these other two people she is talking with. I haven’t said anything till now and she has maintained the same energy as before. How should I handle this because I really do love this lady? She loves me too and we practically know each other’s daily affairs except we don’t touch each other’s devices which was why I didn’t know about the other guys.”
Some reactions have followed …
Joy Iso wrote: “I think you going to her place at that time and seeing that paper is God leading you to something. Just calm down and pray about it for clearer understanding.”
Nnodim Chinyere commented: “You love this lady this much, so what is keeping you?”
Orisaleye Adeplenty Sunday said: “She is seeking God’s face. You too do it from your end.”
Adesida Eunice opined: “She is seeking God’s face towards the best will. You should definitely do the same (pray). That doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you and love should not be a yardstick for missing it maritally. Shalom.”
Adaobi Emmanuel advised: “Permit me to ask. Have you discussed marriage with her? Have you told her your intentions? If you have and she is yet to give you an answer, remind her again. Maybe, that’s her own way of prayers too. You never can tell. Most importantly, you know and understand this lady better than all of us here. Maintain very close communication with her. My humble suggestion.”
See his post below …
The discovery has put the man in a difficult position, grappling with his emotions and seeking guidance from others. The list, which included not only his name but also those of three other potential suitors, has left him questioning his relationship and his girlfriend's intentions.
He expressed his love for her and acknowledged the strong bond they share, yet the revelation of the other names has caused him to seek advice on how to proceed. The reactions from friends and online users reflect a range of perspectives, from urging him to remain calm and seek divine guidance to questioning why he hasn't taken more decisive steps if he loves her so much.
This situation highlights the complexities of relationships and the challenges that arise when trust and communication are tested. The man's decision to remain silent for now, despite his inner turmoil, shows the delicate balance he is trying to maintain between his feelings for her and his concerns about her actions.
As the story unfolds, it serves as a reminder of the importance of open communication and trust in relationships. Whether the man's approach of seeking advice and taking time to reflect will lead to a resolution that strengthens their bond or causes further strain remains to be seen. For now, he continues to navigate this personal dilemma with the support and opinions of those around him.
